The Enemies of Happiness:  Self-doubts & Perfectionism 

Updated: Feb 27, 2019

When did you last jump into cold water? Do you remember how your mind was first telling you that it is too cold and that you will not be able to do it? Once you jump though, this cold boost energizes your entire body and before you realize it, your body starts adapting to the new circumstances. You start to feel ok. Your mind calms down, too. This is what entrepreneurship or any type of leap of faith feels like. Sometimes we adapt faster, sometimes slower.


Being an entrepreneur basically means being your own boss. And being your own boss comes with a lot of jumping into cold waters. You are basically building the road you are going to travel on. And you may have not have a clue about construction work. This is when it is important to cultivate what I call feminine self-leadership.




Feminine Self-Leadership is the process by which you influence yourself to achieve your objectives, but in a feminine way. 

So when self-doubts kick in and this strong desire to either do it perfectly or to not do it at all, it is important that you resort to your feminine flow. Reconnect to your whomb wisdom by putting your hands on your belly and taking some deep inhales all the way into your center of intuition. EmBODYment is so important for us women. Because this is how we stay in our feminine flow – by connecting to our bodies. Always remember:


The ancient Vedic scriptures teach that we may not be able to control what happens to us, but the one thing we can control is how we react to it.

In Psychology Today, Leon F. Seltzer, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, writes: "being acknowledged by others helps you feel more accepted and secure.(...) But, and probably much more often than not, the recognition that we hope for simply isn’t going to happen." He suggests the following which I really love:


For various reasons, it’s crucial that when you’ve executed something well, demonstrated skill or talent, behaved generously or selflessly, you learn how to congratulate yourself.

"Maybe everything is okay."


But what is the origin of this wanting to be perfect and doubting ourselves so much that we are sometimes paralyzed and can't act? In another article, F. Seltzer writes: "We are afraid that we're not who we should be or we're not accomplishing enough with our lives. We believe the validation from others will make it all feel better. Yet the trap is that we can’t always get from others what we are looking for and must look within in order to find any semblance of stability and freedom. So how do we alleviate our suffering and achieve this freedom? A great way to relieve some of our pain is with the mantra "Maybe everything is okay."


So, congratulations, dear sister, if you have read this article all the way, you have persistance, patience, and a desire to take control of your inner world. So, "maybe everything is ok"!


Much love,


Nadja





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